No need to apologize. I knew what you were trying to say and I also understand that if you really love pearls, no matter what you are talking about, you always have them on your mind
After taking a closer look at that forum I have my doubts that you can get truly objective information there. They have one forum that is specifically dedicated to talking about the items they have for sale in their database. This by itself presents a very biased slant for that forum.
I wish that I could point you in a better direction for getting good, unbiased discussion about gemstones, but that is not my speciality.