Thanks pattye & gravityalwayswins
it does doesn't it
You are both right of course and I do know this. I have bent over backward trying to help her and I was totally honest in my listing and the photos were top notch, some of the best I have been able to take.
It feels like more than buyer's remorse now to me. It feels like she is stalking me online. I have explained to her why I cannot offer to another buyer something I do not have any longer but it is as though she doesn't even read it. Now ebay won't let her emails go thru to the second bidder which is not surprising. But if she has been hassling the second bidder anything like she has me then even if she did return it I could not re-offer it to that person. I am starting to think I could not bear to see it again even though I loved it. I don't make second offers anyway as I believe half of them are scams of some sort. It would be different if an item was listed as the buyer having X amount of them. But not a designer or antique/vintage item. Doesn't sit well with me.
I was going to send her an email saying to return it and I would sell it for her but I don't know now. I don't trust her anymore. But I probably will still make the offer but yes any shipping will be on her and I think she will have some cheek to keep my rather expensive present but she probably would anyway. But I just don't care about any of that as long as I can get this bitch off of my back. I have lost count of the number of times she has emailed me in little of 24 hours. Have lost count of hours for that matter and sleep.
Thanks for asking your brother for his advice. I am just not experienced enough with this type of situation and I do believe in good or excellent customer service but this is getting totally ridiculous.
There is no way I will offer the item when I don't have it. That is Fraud and I have tried to explain it to her but it is like water of a ducks back.
Well wish me luck. I wondered how many other sellers have had this kind of problem. She must have know she wasn't going to keep it before it arrived, that is how fast her email was. No thinking about whether it would suit her, or anything. Just bang. Oh, thanks Dawn but now I don't like it. It doesn't suit my finger. Oh boy.
Dawn - going to pull some hair out
PS
This should be put down in the trials and tribulations of an eBay seller. Not an all one way street my any means.